Fruitful Thursday – Self Control

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My husband and I have been together for about 16 years. We married 11 1/2 years ago, when our eldest was 3. I love my husband. He rocks. At least once a week I ask God what I did so right to have been handed such an amazing man. BUT…I’m gong to be completely transparent and tell you it hasn’t always been easy. There was a time when things were pretty bad, I was done, ready to walk. In fact, I had one foot out the door.

I was, and sometimes still am, what some people would call a “handful”. That loving, respectful, wise Titus 2 & Proverbs 31 woman? I wasn’t her. I was stubborn, opinionated, impulsive and fiery – and by fiery I mean foul tempered.

My husband had a foul temper too.

There were many arguments. Loud, ugly arguments. And at least one episode of me trying to run him down with my car – or at least graze him. I’m not joking and I’m not proud of it. But I am proud to say we came out the other side. We loved one another through it all, each trying to be the spouse we knew we could be – but we were both flawed, human, young, and it was hard.

I am so thankful that for as stubborn and impulsive as I was, my husband was and is equally stubborn and steadfast. He insisted on counseling and seeing things through when my impulsive mind had convinced me it was too late to work things out.

Now, on the other side, where the sun is shining, I see things differently and ask myself – Did I really think it was too late or did I think it would be too hard?

“Opportunity is missed by most people because it’s dressed in overalls and looks like work.” ~ Thomas Edison

How different things might have been had I exercised self control – which is nothing more than work and patience. How differently would my husband have reacted towards me had I used a little self control?

Are you struggling in your marriage today? Could you benefit from more self control?

*Disclaimer – This post was not written for people in abusive relationships, it is for those couples with “average” problems. If you are in an abusive relationship, seek help.

8 thoughts on “Fruitful Thursday – Self Control

  1. Thanks Cessie – Jolanthe from Relevant Designs did my new header 🙂  And congrats on your 19 years of marriage, you barely look 19 yourself.  You look too young to be able to have been married 19 years!!

  2. I can’t imagine the sweet, quiet Cheryl I know ever becoming “run him down with the car” angry. 😉 I guess we all have our moments. I know I’ve definitely had my share of those I’m not proud of. Like you, I’m sure glad we stuck it out.

  3. Wow, Cheryl! It must have been a little scary putting this out there, but there are some of us who need to read a testimony like this. Thank you so very much for sharing.
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  4. I love this post, Cheryl! My husband and I have had our bumps in the road too. I can only imagine how different things would have decided that our relationship was too much work. 🙁 Today, he is my best friend adn I thank hte Lord for him each and every day.

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