I was, and sometimes still am, what some people would call a “handful”. That loving, respectful, wise Titus 2 & Proverbs 31 woman? I wasn’t her. I was stubborn, opinionated, impulsive and fiery – and by fiery I mean foul tempered.
My husband had a foul temper too.
There were many arguments. Loud, ugly arguments. And at least one episode of me trying to run him down with my car – or at least graze him. I’m not joking and I’m not proud of it. But I am proud to say we came out the other side. We loved one another through it all, each trying to be the spouse we knew we could be – but we were both flawed, human, young, and it was hard.
I am so thankful that for as stubborn and impulsive as I was, my husband was and is equally stubborn and steadfast. He insisted on counseling and seeing things through when my impulsive mind had convinced me it was too late to work things out.
Now, on the other side, where the sun is shining, I see things differently and ask myself – Did I really think it was too late or did I think it would be too hard?
“Opportunity is missed by most people because it’s dressed in overalls and looks like work.” ~ Thomas Edison
How different things might have been had I exercised self control – which is nothing more than work and patience. How differently would my husband have reacted towards me had I used a little self control?
Are you struggling in your marriage today? Could you benefit from more self control?
*Disclaimer – This post was not written for people in abusive relationships, it is for those couples with “average” problems. If you are in an abusive relationship, seek help.