How To Raise An Adult | Book Review and Giveaway

I received a copy of How To Raise An Adult for review. All opinions are my own. See my disclosure for more information.

How To Raise An Adult

There’s a large age gap between my children. I have a 19 year old son, who will be married in October. Gulp!

I also have an 8 year old son and a 3 year old girl. Naturally, we’re doing things differently with our younger two than our eldest. As you go and grow as a parent you learn, you adapt, you make changes as you need to.  And that’s a good thing. One change I’m happy to be seeing, in general, in the parenting community, is an exodus from “helicopter parenting.” 

Don’t get me wrong. I’m a huge proponent of attachment parenting. I think babies should be with with their parents as much as possible. I believe it creates a spirit of security in them. I believe in co-sleeping, baby wearing and extended nursing. But somewhere along the line, as our children mature. It’s imperative for them to be able to make their own decisions. They need to learn to trust their own abilities, and experience failure – all in the safe and loving environment of parental care.

Why is this so important? Because if our kids can’t learn to think critically, make good decisions and trust their abilities, we end up with adults without a compass. And we’re seeing that now aren’t we? A whole generation of young adults without plans, or they have dreams with no idea what steps to take to achieve their dreams.

I’m so glad How To Raise An Adult is leading the charge to help parents raise children into self-sufficient adults.

About How To Raise An Adult

Author Julie Lythcott-Haims reflects on her experience as a mother and interactions with other parents, educators and college employees as she explains the intricacies of how helicopter parenting causes our children more harm than good. And, how it leads to stress for parents as well as society in general. She offers readers good tips and strategies on how to allow our children to make their own mistakes, develop true self esteem, and determination. All of which works together to raise a child into a resilient adult.

About the Author


Julie Lythcott-Haims has an impressive list of accomplishments, Including graduating Stanford and Harvard Law, sitting as Dean then Assistant President at Stanford, and receiving the Lloyd W. Dinkelspiel Award. However, her greatest accomplishments in my eyes are her self-sufficient teens.  She’s lived the journey that lead to the wisdom she shares.

My Favorite Points

I loved Haims’ section on Hard Work At Home Leads To Promotions in The Workplace. Here, she makes the point that if teens want to be treated like adults, they need to act like adults. If a child can learn to be helpful, diligent and self-motivated at home, that behavior will easily carry over into the workplace.

And my heart really resonated with the chapter on why we should Give Them Unstructured Time. This is the heartbeat of many homeschools, mine included. Parents, our children need unstructured time! Time to discover what they like, what they don’t and what they do well. They need time to imagine and run and develop their imagination.

Imagination leads to innovation! I love how Haims encourages us to create a “playborhood.” This concept was based on a book by Mike Lanza in which the neighborhood is viewed as a small world where children can play and develop as individuals.

Disclaimer: She’s not saying let your kids roam in an unsafe, unattended way. Just to let them explore beyond the confines of the four walls of their home in (again) a safe environment.  You can be with them, just don’t hover and pounce at every issue.

How To Raise an Adult is a good read for parents of children of any age.  It’s given me new ideas to try with my little ones, as well as things to try to help my eldest be the best grown up he can be.  If you’d like a chance to win a copy, enter below.

If you’d rather not wait, you can order a copy today!

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Netflix For Moms | Call The Midwife

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Netflix For Moms

It’s time for another Netflix For Moms! That’s when I share my picks for great shows for moms, available via Netflix through their mailing option or instant streaming. And I have another great one for you!

My latest binge-worthy series and Netflix pick is Call The Midwife.

This period drama set in impoverished East London in the 1950s follows a newly qualified midwife and her colleagues at a nursing convent.

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I’ve thoroughly enjoyed this series, not just for entertainment value, but because it touches the heart. Birth stories and more are told from the viewpoint of the main character, Nurse Lee, looking back at her midwifery career.

However, Nurse Lee doesn’t just recount her tales.  She shares them from the vantage point of the wisdom of her older self, looking back.

Call The Midwife touches on fun subjects like dating, marriage, healthy births, faith, and the beauty of female friendship. And, it also delves into the more difficult side of life, poverty, teen pregnancy, abortion, stillbirth, death, and more.

This is a heartwarming series.  You’ll love it if you enjoy a good birth story, or like taking a peek into the underbelly of poverty – and the heart it takes to navigate it with love and class.

Watch it today!

If you just can’t wait, you can buy Season 1, Season 2, and Season 3on Amazon – that’s the whole series.

Heart Sisters Book Review and Giveaway

As part of the Heart Sisters book launch team, I received a free copy for review. All thoughts and opinions are my own. This post contains affiliate links. Please see my disclosure for more information.

Recently, I shared how I’ve been reviewing my 2015 resolutions. One of which was to be a better local friend. Lately I’ve been focusing on the resolution of getting healthy and fit. I figured I could work on deepening friendships later. However if I’m honest with myself, I know I put off this resolution because I don’t know where to start.

I know where I want to start – there are two fun, wise, local women I’d like to get to know better. I’d love to start with them. But as with all things in life. If I want to start something – anything – I have to start with myself. And again…where do I start with that??

Luckily God knows me, His creation, better than I’ll ever know myself. He knows what I need and He’s given me a great resource to start the work within me. It came in the most humble of packages – a book.

You know, I don’t think any of us are unique in the hurtful friendship department. I’m sure at one point or another each of us has both hurt and been hurt by a friend. None of us are immune to dealing or receiving ugliness. But whether or not we learn from those experiences… that is what makes the difference in becoming Heart Sisters. That’s why I love this book.

There is so much grace and wisdom between these pages. And it takes you straight to the foot of the cross.

This is not a self-help book that will tell you how to get the best friends ever in 5 easy steps. It’s a book that takes you to the source of help, to the One that will teach you how to be the true friend, so you can have the true friends. Heart Sisters Book
It’s not always easy and the author, Natalie Snapp, is honest about that. It takes strength, boundaries and introspection. It takes putting yourself out there and sometimes risking hurt. But the reward is sweet. Her heart sisters are proof of that!

Sometimes it’s difficult to put ourselves out there and risk repeated hurt and rejection. But, my sweet moms, if we’re not brave enough to try what legacy will that leave for our daughters? That’s the question that keeps me up at night. Natalie Snapp book
I was blessed to have a mom with Heart Sisters. Of course, I didn’t realize it at the time. As a teen, it was just another Thursday night and my mom was gathered around the table with her prayer group friends <insert dramatic teen eyeroll>. But now, nearly 30 years later that “prayer group” is still a tight knit group of women who lift each other up rather than tear one another down.

And to be honest, they were a huge support to me as a pregnant teen. That support, that camaraderie, that love and lack of ego is what I want my daughter to see in me! I want her to see me surrounded by women that point me toward the cross. So that one day, she can use my example as a blueprint for her friendships, just as my mom’s example was for me.

Heart Sisters
Maybe you don’t have daughters, maybe you’ve been badly wounded, maybe you feel like your husband is the only friend you need – whatever may be keeping you from the joy of having and being a true Heart Sister, I hope you’ll lay that down momentarily and consider reading Heart Sisters. I promise it will bless your heart in ways you don’t expect. And I suspect it will help you in all your relationships, not just friendships.

Enter the giveaway below for a chance to win a copy. Or buy Heart Sisters today.  

There’s nothing wrong with you. Keep having the courage to put yourself out there and be intentional about praying for this specifically. ~Natalie Snapp

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